Just spent time with 4
couples who have come together to work on their relationships. I commend their courage. They are all strangers but have decided to
take action, enroll in the group and see what happens. We will spend the next several weeks
exploring some really hard issues. They
will work hard to be honest, open, and take responsibility for their growth and
improvement. They will do the homework
and have the conversations with each other that lead to greater transparency
and intimacy. It is so cool to watch
them evolve from strangers to friends who care about each other.
Each time I lead a couples
therapy group I am amazed at how it changes me.
I am always inspired to try harder in my own marriage. It
points out my own areas of complacency,
as often happens, I come away getting more out of it than I predicted.
It’s good to do things that
wake us up to our relationships. It is
easy to be sleepy, and take each other for granted. Way more beneficial to be alert, to try harder, to be sweeter, kinder. What inspires you to work on your relationships?