Wake up and work on it

  Just spent time with 4 couples who have come together to work on their relationships.  I commend their courage.  They are all strangers but have decided to take action, enroll in the group and see what happens.  We will spend the next several weeks exploring some really hard issues.  They will work hard to be honest, open, and take responsibility for their growth and improvement.  They will do the homework and have the conversations with each other that lead to greater transparency and intimacy.  It is so cool to watch them evolve from strangers to friends who care about each other.

  Each time I lead a couples therapy group I am amazed at how it changes me.  I am always inspired to try harder in my own marriage.   It points out my own  areas of complacency, as often happens, I come away getting more out of it than I predicted.

It’s good to do things that wake us up to our relationships.  It is easy to be sleepy, and take each other for granted.  Way more beneficial to be alert, to try harder, to be sweeter, kinder.  What inspires you to work on your relationships?