Whew, how did you do it?

While leading a grief support group for individuals who have lost their spouse I met an elderly gentleman.  His wife of 69 years had just died.  He missed her terribly.  I had to ask, “What is the secret to being married to the same person for that many years?”  Tearfully he replied,
      
“Accept and Adjust!”

 I have thought about that many times.  It is simple yet profound.  Typically we resist that simple advice.  It is hard to accept others, especially our spouse. It is easier to complain, nag, worry, shut down and disengage. 

 There is a certain freedom in acceptance of our spouse.  When we truly accept them for who they are it creates a space for us to love them unconditionally.  Something to think about.