Today is my 30th wedding anniversary. Like all couples, we have experienced the
full spectrum of easy and hard times. I
love Mitch Milton deeply and I am very grateful for our life together. Here are
my suggestions for lasting 30 years and beyond.
- Start out knowing it may not always be easy but you are signed up for life
- Laugh, a lot… I mean it; laugh like your marriage depends on it.
- Believe in God; trust Him even when you may not understand.
- Enjoy sex and have lots of it.
- Cultivate a network of supportive loving people, friends, family and the occasional stranger.
- Have your own individual identity, interests or hobbies separate from your spouse.
- Learn to argue, don’t ignore stuff that really bothers you, BUT…. Only argue when you can do it with kindness and respect
- Don’t compare yourself to others; enjoy what is unique about your marriage.
- Appreciate the simple rituals you share. (coffee together in the morning, kiss hello when you return home from work, sitting together watching the kid’s sporting events)
- Accept your spouse for who they are, quit trying to change them.
- Get help when you need it.
I think John and I consider it a personal achievement if we can make the other laugh out loud at some point during the day. We love to laugh together!
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